TOPIC: THE SUBJECT CALLED 'SPOUSE'
MEMORIZE
Forsake the foolish, and live; and go in the way of understanding. Proverbs 9:6
READ Genesis 2:21-25
[21]And the LORD God caused a deep sleep to fall upon Adam, and he slept: and he took one of his ribs, and closed up the flesh instead thereof;
[22]And the rib, which the LORD God had taken from man, made he a woman, and brought her unto the man.
[23]And Adam said, This is now bone of my bones, and flesh of my flesh: she shall be called Woman, because she was taken out of Man.
[24]Therefore shall a man leave his father and his mother, and shall cleave unto his wife: and they shall be one flesh.
[25]And they were both naked, the man and his wife, and were not ashamed.
MESSAGE
Marriage is a school where you study a subject called 'the spouse'. People need to study their spouses in order to discover what makes them happy and what offends them. Spouses also need to learn how to support each other to achieve their goals and succeed in all aspects of life.
If you are married, understanding your spouse will help you avoid offence, especially when you know his or her weaknesses. For example, a man who knows that his wife struggles with managing time should not be offended whenever she takes her time to get ready for outings. Instead, he should help her to manage her time however he can. Likewise, a woman who knows that her husband struggles to express his feelings should be more patient with him and encourage him to be more open with her. In marriage, you must seek to understand your spouse's strengths and weaknesses so you can work together to make the best of your union.
When I got married to my wife, we made a vow never to be angry at the same time. We agreed that whenever one of us gets angry, the other partner should keep quiet. One day, we were travelling to Lagos from llesha, another town in Western Nigeria, when my wife got angry about something and expressed her feelings to me. I knew she was right, but I was also angry. As I was driving, she continued to express her anger, but I could not say anything to her because of our vow. When I couldn't take it anymore, I parked the car and walked away, leaving her inside. After walking for a while, I stopped at a village and bought some fruits. I returned to the car and gave them to her. My wife was already worried because I had been gone for a while. She accepted my peace offering and that was the end of the issue. I was able to appease her in this manner because we had taken some time to study each other, and we know what works for us.
Once some people go through courtship and then get married, they wrongly think they have learnt all they need to krnow about their partner. They do not realise that they have only just begun. If you are married, you will avoid many misunderstandings if you humble yourself to study your spouse with the help of the Holy Spirit.
KEY POINT
Those who are married should humble themselves and keep on learning about their spouses.
BIBLE IN A YEAR
Psalm 9-17
HYMN 28 GUIDE ME, O THOU GREAT JEHOVAH!
1 Guide me, O Thou great Jehovah!
Pilgrim through this barren land;
I am weak, but Thou art mighty,
Hold me with Thy powerful hand:
Bread of heaven! Bread of heaven!
Feed me now and evermore (2 twice)
2 Open Thou the crystal fountain,
Whence the healing stream doth flow:
Let the fiery, cloudy pillar
Lead me all my journey through:
Strong deliverer! Strong deliverer!
Be Thou still my strength and shield ( 2ce )
3 If I tread the verge of Jordan,
Bid my anxious fears subside:
Bear me through the swelling torrent,
Land me safe on Canaan's side:
Songs of praises! Songs of praises!
I will ever give to Thee ( 2ce )
4 Saviour, come! We long to see Thee,
Long to dwell with Thee above;
And to know in full communion,
All the sweetness of Thy love.
Come, Lord Jesus! Come, Lord Jesus!
Take Thy waiting people home ( 2ce )
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